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Enneagram: It’s a Tie

Enneagram Test: What Personality Type Are You?



  1. The Boss   92%
  2. The Giver    92%
  3. The Idealist  88%
  4. The Loyalist   88%
  5. The Mediator  84%
  6. The Observer  76%
  7. The Perfectionist  68%
  8. The Performer   68%
  9. The Tragic Romantic   88%







Type 2: The Giver


Ego Fixation: Flattery and Manipulation

Holy Idea: Will, Freedom

Basic Fear: Being unloved

Motivations: Wanting to be loved, wanting to express their feelings for others, needing to be appreciated and valued, wanting to prove themselves

Virtue to Learn: Humility


The basis of The Giver type personality arises from a distortion of the Holy Ideas of Will and Freedom. Holy Freedom is the idea that all acts by a human are not separate from the totality, or “Will,” of the cosmos. From an absolute perspective, it is impossible to act in any way that is not part of the will of existence.


When this understanding is lost or distorted, it results in a personality type that anxiously believes itself to be separate from existence. Therefore, The Giver tends to habitually seek the approval of others, and sometimes may even resort to manipulation or flattery to gain approval. This people pleasing defense mechanism was learned early on in life as a result of the belief that when others are happy, safety ensues.


On the other hand, Giver’s are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted people. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing.


The Giver typically has problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs before others.


Examples: Eleanor Roosevelt, Nancy Reagan, Stevie Wonder, Elizabeth Taylor, Martin Sheen, Timothy Treadwell (Grizzly Man).



Type 8: The Boss (or Challenger)


Ego Fixation: Vengeance (objectification)

Holy Idea: Truth

Basic Fear: Being harmed or controlled by others

Motivations: Wanting to be self-reliant, desiring to prove their strength and resist weakness, wanting to be important, needing to dominate and to “stay in control” of life

Virtue To Learn: Innocence


The Holy Idea of “Truth” is the understanding that All is One: the entire universe, with all of its levels and dimensions, is an expression of the One no matter how fragmented the subjective mind perceives it.


When this fundamental understanding is obscured or lost, it can result in a personality type that sees reality in a very dualistic way (justice/injustice, strong/weak, good/bad etc.) and sees itself as essentially “bad” or “guilty.” To numb the pain of this core wound, The Boss overcompensates by controlling others or by dominating situations so that they don’t feel vulnerable.


‘Active Bosses’ tend towards intensity and rigidity, being disciplinarians given to conflict and aggression, and protectiveness towards the weak. ‘Passive Bosses,’ on the other hand, incline toward hedonism and indulge in excess. The Boss’ behavior comes as a result of growing up in an environment where weakness (showing vulnerability) is frowned upon. Thus, The Boss learns that success lies in controlling others, not in being controlled by them.


On the other hand, The Boss tends to be fair, confident, and self-reliant.


Examples: Winston Churchill, Indira Gandhi, Ernest Hemingway, Jack Nicholson, Fidel Castro, Pink, Barbara Walters, Pablo Picasso.



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My Furbaby

This is my furbaby Elmo. . . I also call him butterball or baby.

I love him to death. He sleeps with me, and purrs in my ear. He also loves my purple blanket.

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He was sick as a kitten and we mended him to good health. He has helped me with my anxiety. I am a cat lady. If I had the money I would love to have a cat sanctuary.

Random stuff about me

Twenty-six things about me…

A- Age: 33

B- Biggest fear: being lone and not finishing my written projects

C- Current time: 1:04 am

D- Drink you last had: Yay coffee

E- Every day starts with: Coffee

F- Favorite song: Currently the soundtrack to Pitch Perfect

G- Ghosts, are they real?: Yes, I have sensed them.

H- Hometown: North Ridgeville, Ohio

I- In love with: Yes, there is someone new.

J- Jealous of: I try not to be .

K- Killed someone? Only within my writing, I mean I write vampires

L- Last time you cried? Maybe a week ago . . . stress

M- Middle name: Marie

N- Number of siblings: 3 brothers blood related and 3 brothers that got pulled into the family

O- One wish: To travel on book and lecture tour and all of my vampire books number 1 seller

P- Person you last called: Dad

Q- Question you’re always asked: Why?

R- Reason to smile: Chocolate, writing again, new guy in my life

S- Song last sang: Desperado by the eagles

T- Time you woke up: 08:00

U- Underwear color: Pink

V- Vacation destination: Europe

W- Worst habit: Putting things off

X- X-Rays you’ve had: Most of my left side, arm, ankle, foot, chest etc

Y- Your favorite food: Steak or fried chicken

Z- Zodiac sign: Sagittarius