- The Boss 92%
- The Giver 92%
- The Idealist 88%
- The Loyalist 88%
- The Mediator 84%
- The Observer 76%
- The Perfectionist 68%
- The Performer 68%
- The Tragic Romantic 88%
Type 2: The Giver
Ego Fixation: Flattery and Manipulation
Holy Idea: Will, Freedom
Basic Fear: Being unloved
Motivations: Wanting to be loved, wanting to express their feelings for others, needing to be appreciated and valued, wanting to prove themselves
Virtue to Learn: Humility
The basis of The Giver type personality arises from a distortion of the Holy Ideas of Will and Freedom. Holy Freedom is the idea that all acts by a human are not separate from the totality, or “Will,” of the cosmos. From an absolute perspective, it is impossible to act in any way that is not part of the will of existence.
When this understanding is lost or distorted, it results in a personality type that anxiously believes itself to be separate from existence. Therefore, The Giver tends to habitually seek the approval of others, and sometimes may even resort to manipulation or flattery to gain approval. This people pleasing defense mechanism was learned early on in life as a result of the belief that when others are happy, safety ensues.
On the other hand, Giver’s are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted people. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing.
The Giver typically has problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs before others.
Examples: Eleanor Roosevelt, Nancy Reagan, Stevie Wonder, Elizabeth Taylor, Martin Sheen, Timothy Treadwell (Grizzly Man).
Type 8: The Boss (or Challenger)
Ego Fixation: Vengeance (objectification)
Holy Idea: Truth
Basic Fear: Being harmed or controlled by others
Motivations: Wanting to be self-reliant, desiring to prove their strength and resist weakness, wanting to be important, needing to dominate and to “stay in control” of life
Virtue To Learn: Innocence
The Holy Idea of “Truth” is the understanding that All is One: the entire universe, with all of its levels and dimensions, is an expression of the One no matter how fragmented the subjective mind perceives it.
When this fundamental understanding is obscured or lost, it can result in a personality type that sees reality in a very dualistic way (justice/injustice, strong/weak, good/bad etc.) and sees itself as essentially “bad” or “guilty.” To numb the pain of this core wound, The Boss overcompensates by controlling others or by dominating situations so that they don’t feel vulnerable.
‘Active Bosses’ tend towards intensity and rigidity, being disciplinarians given to conflict and aggression, and protectiveness towards the weak. ‘Passive Bosses,’ on the other hand, incline toward hedonism and indulge in excess. The Boss’ behavior comes as a result of growing up in an environment where weakness (showing vulnerability) is frowned upon. Thus, The Boss learns that success lies in controlling others, not in being controlled by them.
On the other hand, The Boss tends to be fair, confident, and self-reliant.
Examples: Winston Churchill, Indira Gandhi, Ernest Hemingway, Jack Nicholson, Fidel Castro, Pink, Barbara Walters, Pablo Picasso.
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